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Two studies need participants May 22, 2007

Filed under: home birth,Mothering,Natural childbirth,Parenting — amygeekgrl @ 8:12 pm

A research study about parenting views and practices

From Research on Mothering:

You are invited to participate in a research study of parenting views and practices. We are interested in understanding what sources parents find useful in their parenting practices, how parents use different parenting information, and what views parents across the country hold regarding parenting issues. We are interested in getting responses from mothers of small children, ages 4 and under.

A research study about home birth

And from A New Look at Home Birth:

Welcome! I hope you will participate in my study about home birth. I am a PhD candidate in American Studies at the University of Iowa, investigating current home birth cultures, with a strong focus on unassisted birth.

There are several different surveys related to home birth and unassisted birth, including surveys for health practitioners, birth attendants, as well as if you’ve had a home birth or unassisted birth, want to share your thoughts on childbirth literature, intuition in birth, sexuality in birth and birthrape. Each survey takes from 15-30 minutes and must be completed before May 27, 2007.

Click on the links above to go to the surveys.

 

An evening with Ina May May 8, 2007

Ina MayAs I set out driving Friday night to hear Ina May Gaskin – called “the mother of authentic midwifery” by Midwifery Today – speak, I was filled with nervous excitement. When I was about 10 minutes out from the church in Lafayette where the event was taking place, a friend of mine called me to say she was saving some seats for me and other friends of ours and she was able to get pretty close to the front. I felt like a teenager going to a rock concert. Third row seats! We got third row seats to see Ina May! 🙂

As I pulled into the parking lot, I saw moms with their children in baby slings or carriers, groups of women without children, as well as some couples all making their way towards the entrance. I pulled in a spot, got Julian from the backseat and into the Ergo carrier when I overheard a woman a few cars down from me say, “I’m so glad I remembered to bring my book for her to sign.” D’oh! I never even thought to bring my copy of “Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.” Some groupie I am, eh?

With only five minutes to spare before the talk was supposed to begin, Julian and I hightailed it into the building, quickly saying hello as we passed a couple of women I know from our AP group on the way. I couldn’t wait to get inside.

We made our way to the front of the registration line and we were greeted by my midwife K with a big hug. I wanted to stay and chat with her, but there wasn’t time and she had a lot more participants to check in, so we agreed to try to meet up after Ina May’s talk to chat. My excitement and anticipation grew.

Once inside the church, I spotted my friends waving me down in, yes, the third(!) row, right in front of the podium. I may have skipped a little as I made my way towards them and settled down in my seat with Julian.

We chatted for a good 10 to 15 minutes before Karen Robinson, the president of the Colorado Midwives Association (CMA), came out to welcome everyone to the event, speak a bit about the CMA, and then, the moment we were all waiting for, introduce Ina May Gaskin.

The applause began immediately and Ina May walked in to a standing ovation.

She began her talk with a bit of history both about herself and about the history of birth and obstetrics in the United States. While I have read and heard before about how women used to be treated in hospitals (drugged to the point of being unconscious while their babies were extracted from their bodies using forceps, etc.), it gives me the heebie-jeebies every time. She told us how her first birth was in a hospital, where, despite her belief that she could’ve given birth naturally and without pain medication, she was drugged and her baby was taken out using forceps.

She spoke about the path that lead her to become a midwife, as she began attending births while traveling across the country (on hippie buses) with hundreds of others who were following Stephen Gaskin on a five-month-long speaking tour across the United States. 11 babies were born on the buses during the Caravan. She has attended more than 1200 births to date.

She talked about Sphincter Law which is described in detail in her book “Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.”

“The Sphincter Law recognizes the cervix as a sphincter along with the other excretory sphincters. These sphincters function best, Gaskin points out, in an atmosphere of privacy and familiarity.” —Midwifery: the Revival an Old Profession

So it is difficult for a woman to give birth in a hospital with nurses and doctors shouting “PUSH!” or making threats of “you’d better get that baby out soon or you’ll have a c-section” etc. Just as it would not be easy for any of us to shit (yes, she said shit! and ass too for that matter) on command. If you are sitting on the toilet, trying to take a crap and someone walks in on you – what happens? You stop crapping until you feel safe and no longer vulnerable. Same thing can also happen with birthing a baby.

She also talked about the mind/body connection, though I don’t know if she used that term. She described how she has witnessed a woman get stuck at 7 cm (or whatever) for hours on end with no apparent physical reason, only to later discover that this women’s mother died in childbirth, so this woman was afraid she would die too. Once the “secret” was out, however, the woman was able to dilate to completion and have her baby. She ran into something similar in another situation as well. But (and this is my own rambling here) had something like that happened in a hospital, how many doctors would stop to wonder what could be causing this woman’s labor to stall or would they threaten the woman that if she didn’t dilate by such and such time, she would need a c-section? Yes, I believe things need to change in the obstetrical world.

She talked a little bit about Ricki Lake’s new movie, “The Business of Being Born,” as she is interviewed in it. She mentioned that it received a standing ovation at the Tribeca Film Festival and that Ricki had recently been interviewed about it on “The View.” Someone asked how can we see the film and she recommended we start calling our local movie theaters to ask them when they will be getting it. Let them know there’s a demand for it.

At the end of her talk, she took questions from the audience. Questions were asked about VBACs (vaginal birth after cesarean), breastfeeding, circumcision, vaccinations and breech births. I don’t recall all that was said since we were going on two hours of Julian being a happy camper in my lap and he was starting to get squirmy.

I know she said that she believes breastfeeding should continue as long as it’s mutually satisfying to both the child AND the mother. If mom isn’t enjoying the breastfeeding relationship anymore, she doesn’t believe in continuing to nurse out of guilt. She is currently in the process of writing a book about breastfeeding.

She doesn’t believe in routine circumcision, but has seen many circumcised boys in her years as a midwife, and even acted as a mohel for a while.

I didn’t get to hear a lot of what she said about vaccinations, since it was about that time that I decided Julian and I needed to move from our third(!) row seat and stand in the back, where I could sway with him and keep him contented. I recall her saying that she felt some vaccinations were OK, but she believes in starting them later than the recommended age. And that there were others (like chicken pox) that she wouldn’t recommend.

After I had Julian tucked back into the Ergo and we were swaying at the back of the room, someone asked a question about her thoughts on breech births (i.e. should they be automatic c-sections?). This, as some of you who have read Julian’s birth story* know, is a topic very dear and close to my heart. If you have a breech baby in a hospital with an OB, you are pretty much guaranteed a c-section. Of course midwives still perform vaginal breech births and believe that a woman should be able to choose to have a vaginal birth. Ina May helps educate midwives in her conferences (and through her videos) on the knowledge and skills required to successfully assist women having breech babies. In fact, one of the sessions from the following day’s midwifery conference was focusing on breech and twin births. “Vaginal birth of breech and twins has become a rarity for more and more OBs. Therefore the skills needed to assist in these types of vaginal births have begun to disappear and women are losing their right to choose a vaginal birth with twins or a breech.”

After that question was answered, Ina May wrapped up her talk and gracefully exited the room as everyone applauded with much gratitude.

Many people milled about for a while chatting with each other, meeting with Ina May or Debby Takikawa (the director of the movie “What Babies Want” narrated by Noah Wyle who was presenting at the midwifery conference held that day – by the way, it’s a great movie and you should definitely see it if you ever get the chance), etc. after the talk concluded. Yours truly was among them. I chatted with some friends for a while before realizing that Ina May was still around and signing autographs. I wished that I had my book with me, but since I didn’t, I asked her to sign a brochure from my midwife’s practice. She did.
“For Amy
Ina May Gaskin”
I talked to her briefly and told her a little bit about Julian’s birth, as he slept away in the Ergo. It was pretty darn cool to talk to her face to face. I knew she had had a busy day and another one ahead of her the next day (and still more autographs to sign), so I didn’t want to keep her for long. I thanked her and headed back over to my friends. We reminisced about how we used to get all excited about going to concerts or getting autographs from celebrities, etc., and there we were elated to hear a midwife talk and get her autograph. 😉 Times have certainly changed.

I must add that I also wished I had taken my camera with me, when I later saw Ina May pose for pictures with a few women. I guess I now know what to bring along with me to my next midwifery rock concert event. 😉

It was a wonderful evening and a great privilege to meet Ina May, a woman who has done so much to further the midwifery cause and offer women a choice, a very safe choice, when it comes to birth.

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I’m sure I forgot something from the evening and if anyone who was there wants to chime in in the comments with anything I overlooked, please do so. It really would’ve been nice to take notes, but there’s no way I could’ve kept the pen and paper out of Julian’s mouth. 😉

Salon.com has a great article about Ina May called, The Midwife of Modern Midwifery from a series called “Brilliant Careers” in the June 1, 1999 edition for those of you who’d like to learn more about this amazing woman.

*If you haven’t read Julian’s birth story and would like to, please e-mail me. It’s not currently on my blog.

 

Penn & Teller on Circumcision April 30, 2007

Filed under: Activism,Health,Kids,Natural living,Parenting,Valuable Resources — amygeekgrl @ 9:03 pm

Everything you ever wanted to know (and then some) about circumcision:

From Penn & Teller’s Showtime Bullshit! series, here’s The Bullshit of Circumcision

I think this video speaks for itself. I will add that “brief nudity” is an understatement in this episode’s case, and (as this shows actual circumcisions being performed on babies) this is not for the faint of heart. That’s all I’m gonna say about that.

 

the truth will set you free April 25, 2007

In the spirit of putting more of myself “out there,” here it is, as promised – my completely honest post.

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It recently occurred to me that because I tend to focus on positive things on my blog, that I may give the impression that I have this parenting thing all figured out. And while I do feel like I excel at baby rearing, I find myself struggling with this toddler/preschooler rearing.

It all started when Ava decided to grow up, exert her independence and have a mind of her own/free will. How dare she, right? 😉 Of course, a good deal of her gaining her independence seems to have coincided with me being pregnant with Julian and now, of course, being a mother of two. Just when I thought I had it all figured out and parenting was a piece of cake, I threw a pregnancy and new baby in to the mix. I always say I like a good challenge and boy oh boy, is that what I got.

Hmmm. I am just beating around the bush now. Gosh, delving into all of this honesty stuff is seriously harder than I thought. OK, here goes…

Over the past few months I have been losing my patience with Ava more and more. I have found myself doing things that I never wanted to do in my parenting journey – like yelling, talking down to her and (gulp. here goes the brutal honesty) physically wrapping both of my arms around her and squeezing her a little too tightly. The last time I squeezed her, she got scared, started crying and said, “Don’t do that, mommy.” And I about died with guilt and shame, sadness and remorse. 😦

What had I become? Who was this woman who has always had the patience of a saint when it came to her children suddenly causing one of them to be afraid of her?

I had a talk with Ava after that and told her that I was sorry and explained that I had been upset and frustrated and I shouldn’t have reacted that way.

Soon after that that I IM’d my husband Jody at work to tell him what happened and to tell him that I needed to do something to help myself and keep me from losing it like that again. I was scared of what I had done and knew that I needed to do something to prevent it from turning into a habit.

Thankfully, Jody was very supportive of me and never made me feel shameful for what I had done. Believe me, I felt bad enough all on my own. He was relieved that I told him what happened and said it was good that I could realize that I had a problem and want to do something about it.

Since I had had previous success with hypnosis (both Hypnobirthing and hypnotherapy while pregnant with Julian) in the past, I decided to email my friend and certified hypnotherapist to tell her what was going on with me and see if I could make an appointment. She responded and said that hypnosis could definitely help with my situation and we scheduled a time for me to meet with her.

The first part of my session was just like any therapy appointment. We talked a lot about what was going on in my life, how things are going with two kids, and more specifically about what was going on with me and my reactions to Ava. It was hard to admit that I’d scared her like I did, but it also felt somewhat freeing to get it off my chest. Of course I started crying when I told her about how Ava reacted and she could sense my guilt and sorrow at what I’d done. She immediately reassured me that while a lot of parents don’t talk about it, what I was going through was very normal. She spoke from personal experience about how hard it is to raise two young children and told me of her past struggles as well. I told her that while I figured it was normal, it was not a path I wanted to continue down. I told her I feel that I’ve inherited some bad traits – like feeling like I have to be in control and having a short fuse – and I want to do whatever I can to break the cycle. She agreed that wanting to change is good and said that there are things I can do to help me with my temper and keep me from losing my cool.

So we talked about some practical things I could put into effect to help myself.
1) Using Rescue Remedy – I used it a lot while I was pregnant but had forgotten about it since then.
2) If I feel like I’m getting close to the breaking point, put myself in “time out” for a minute or two, long enough so that I can calm down and act rationally. It’s something that Ava will understand and it will give me a break to regroup.
3) Implement a quiet time for 20-30 minutes each day with Ava and buy her a special timer. She gave up her naps before Julian was born, but I feel still needs some down time each day which she currently isn’t getting.
4) If everyone (me and the kids) seems to be having a bad day, change up the scenery. Take the kids for a walk, or go to the park or for a drive or something.
5) Call someone if I’m having a bad day.

The rest of the session was spent with the actual hypnosis, which lead to my identifying a “warning sign,” if you will, that I’m about to lose my cool, and coming up with a way to calm myself and act calmly. It was a long session, though it didn’t feel long at all to me while I was in hypnosis (funny how that works), and I came out of it feeling refreshed and thankful that I decided to give hypnosis a try.

So now I’m in the process of putting all of these things into action. I’ve already done a few of the practical things and they are helping me a lot. I also realized today that we (me and the kids) really do need to get out more during the week. We spend way too much time cooped up in our house. Now that the weather is being nicer and Julian isn’t a newborn, I feel more comfortable going out and doing more.

And the hypnosis seems to be working too. I feel much more empowered than I did before. I know this is something that I can control and fix if I continue to work on it and that is my plan. 🙂

So, there ya have it – my brutally honest post. There will likely be more in the future of the crunchy domestic goddess.

And are you up to the challenge of writing a raw, honest post too? Let me know if you do and I will link them all in a future post. Then we can all marvel at our honesty (something we need more of in this world) together. 🙂

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On a related topic, I recently learned about this great website called Enjoy Parenting. Scott Noelle, a parenting coach for Attachment Parenting-minded parents, sends a free (short) daily inspirational e-mail, called the Daily Groove, out to subscribers. I signed up for it and have been enjoying Scott’s emails and finding that I can apply so much of what he writes about to my parenting journey.

Here are a few Daily Grooves from the archive that I thought were particularly noteworthy and applicable to what I’ve been struggling with lately:

Transforming Anger, Part 1
by Scott Noelle, posted on 2006-07-27
Amongst peace-loving folks, anger gets a bad rap. This is because anger is usually present when violence is committed.

But anger is a form of energy that can be applied constructively, too. That was Nature’s intent.

Anger arises naturally whenever you perceive a loss of personal freedom or power. It’s there to energize you on your way back to your natural state of empowerment.

If you get angry about some behavior of your child, and then you scold, punish, or yell at him or her, you’re simply misdirecting the anger energy.

Just remember: the anger is there to uplift you, not to put down your child (or yourself). It’s there to help you break free from disempowering thoughts and reconnect with your Authentic Power.

Transforming Anger, Part 2
by Scott Noelle, posted on 2006-07-28
(Continued from Part 1)

The transformation of anger begins with acceptance. When you resist anger, it persists, escalates into rage, or descends into depression.

Accepting anger doesn’t mean tolerating violence. The compulsion to express anger violently is a byproduct of our “dominator” culture in which force is confused with Authentic Power.

That compulsion can be greatly reduced if you dis-identify with your anger, which you can do by observing or “witnessing” it.

Take a deep breath and locate the sensation of anger in your body. Use your intuition to sense its subtle qualities. Can you feel its “edges”? What is its “shape,” “color,” “temperature,” “weight,” etc.?

Put aside all thoughts of right and wrong for now. Just observe the physical sensation and be present with it.

You are not the anger. You are the Witness, observing the anger. Let yourself be curious and eager to discover what anger can reveal. It wants you to remember Who You Really Are.

Transforming Anger, Part 3
by Scott Noelle, posted on 2006-07-31

(Continued from Part 2)

Once you make peace with your anger, you can harness it’s energy and use it creatively.

Remember, anger always arises from a perception of disempowerment. This must be a misperception because Who You Really Are is truly powerful!

So, to reconnect with your Authentic Power, the trick is to direct the anger at the misperception. Let yourself get really pissed off that this LIE has found its way into your mind! It’s a rude, obnoxious, uninvited guest!

Most important: Shift your thoughts as quickly as you can from being angry at the misperception to being determined to perceive the higher Truth. For example:

“Dammit! I’m sick and tired of believing that a child’s behavior can shut down my heart! My heart and the Infinite Love that fills it are so HUGE than nothing can stop them! Nothing but my belief, that is, but I’m NOT BUYING IT anymore! I AM powerful!! I CAN choose what I focus on!! And I AM DETERMINED to choose thoughts that open my heart!!!”

At this point in your thought process, you can really have some FUN with your aligned anger energy! For example:

“This is all bullsh*t anyway, because I know deep down that my kid is doing the best s/he can with what s/he’s got, and the real reason I’m mad is ‘cuz I’m imagining how my parents would react to that behavior… Like it’s any of their freakin’ business!! I don’t give a RIP what my parents, or the neighbors, or ‘society’ thinks about my choices! I AM FREE TO BE THE KIND OF PARENT I WANT TO BE!!!

Of course your thought process will vary depending on the situation. The overall strategy is to transform your anger into a passionate determination to connect with your Inner Power and Freedom.

Authentic empowerment feels WAY better than the shallow satisfaction of forced compliance. And once your heart is open again, all sorts of creative solutions will come flooding in!

Detoxifying Parental Guilt
by Scott Noelle, posted on 2007-03-16

Are you plagued by guilt whenever you fall short of your parenting ideals? Such guilt may seem a natural response, but it’s not… It’s cultural.

Our culture conditions people to believe that their worth depends on their behavior, so that when your behavior is “wrong” you doubt your self-worth, i.e., you feel guilty.

But if you knew absolutely that you are worthy of love and respect — unconditionally — you’d never feel guilty. You’d simply feel “off” whenever your behavior was out of alignment with your values.

That “off” feeling would be a welcome sign that you need to adjust your course. And with your self-worth beyond dispute, you’d be confident in your ability to get back on track.

So next time you feel parental guilt, say to yourself, “This has nothing to do with my inherent worth — that’s a given. I made a mistake, but I can learn from it. I got a little lost, but I’m finding my way.”

Radical Honesty
by Scott Noelle, posted on 2007-04-25

Hiding the truth (from yourself and/or others) is a constant energy drain. To free yourself from the burden of secrets and lies, you must cultivate the skill of radical honesty: willingness to reveal any truth, no matter how “unacceptable” it is. (See recommended book and website, below.)

Withholding truth is such an integral part of our culture that you probably don’t notice when you’re doing it. So, for today, pay close attention to your thoughts and expressions, and continually ask yourself, “Am I being as honest as I could be about that? Is there a deeper truth?”

Examples of “acceptable” dishonesty include saying you’re “fine” when you’re not, and not saying how you feel about the way your friend treats her child.

When you spot a white lie or withheld truth, notice how it feels in your body — the energy and effort required to distort or ignore your true feelings.

Then imagine being radically honest — telling it exactly like it is. If you could be that honest and keep your heart open, would you?

• Recommended book: Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton

 

He loves me, he really loves me April 12, 2007

Filed under: Attachment Parenting,Mothering,My life,Parenting — amygeekgrl @ 12:19 pm

Just another reason why I love my husband, Jody. He nominated me for two “blogger’s choice awards” – Best Parenting Blog and Hottest Mommy Blogger. <blush> Isn’t he a sweetie? It’s either that or he’s buttering me up for something. 😉

If you’d like to vote for me, please click the buttons below. Thanks! 🙂

Oh, and just for the record, you can vote for numerous blogs in each category, so just because you already vote for one blog for “best parenting blog” (or whatever) doesn’t mean you can’t vote for another.

 

Super? Nanny March 13, 2007

Filed under: Activism,Attachment Parenting,Breastfeeding,Kids,Parenting — amygeekgrl @ 7:00 pm

Mamas all over the Internet are voicing their opinion on the latest episode of ABC’s “SuperNanny” today. Some think Jo’s advice to the family was completely uneducated and out of line, others have issues with parts of it and still others think there was nothing wrong with it at all. Of course I have my own thoughts on the matter to share and, now that I have a minute to get on the computer, I will do just that.

First of all, this family had a LOT of issues, namely needing to set boundaries, find some balance in their family life, and find an alternative to “whoopin'” the kids (which is what the mom called the spankings her kids received). Although the mom held her14-month-old baby a lot, nursed her on demand and the parents co-slept with their 6-year-old as well as the baby, this family was not practicing Attachment Parenting nor seemed to have any desire to.

The mom seemed reluctant to wean the baby at first, but then changed her mind and said she was ready. I applaud her for breastfeeding for as long as she did, considering only 17.2% of moms in the U.S. were still nursing their children at 12 months old (in 2003) per the CDC, even though the AAP recommends “Exclusive breastfeeding for approximately the first six months and support for breastfeeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child.”

The fact that the mom decided to wean does not bother me, however, the way Jo handled the weaning process (cold-turkey) seemed pretty darn awful. There are much gentler ways of getting a baby to wean than to go cold-turkey. Plus, it’s not good for the mom to just up and quit like that. I’m sure her boobs were about ready to explode and I hope she didn’t develop mastitis (breast infection) as a result. I wish they would’ve consulted a lactation consultant or two before giving out advice on weaning. Perhaps if they had, they would’ve known better than to encourage the mom to give her 14-month-old a bottle. Bottle use past 12 months of age is discouraged because it can lead to mouth/teeth problems.

From kellymom.com: “Stopping breastfeeding abruptly, or “cold turkey,” can be very distressing for both mother and baby and can cause plugged ducts, breast infection, or even a breast abscess. Hormone levels are also more likely to take a drastic plunge, causing mood swings, depression, etc. It’s very rare that sudden weaning is truly necessary. If someone suggests to you that this is required, get a second opinion. It would also be helpful to talk to a lactation consultant and/or a La Leche League Leader, who will be able to suggest alternatives and, if necessary, help you to wean with as little distress to mom and baby as possible.” Kellymom also has recommendations for gradual or partial weaning.

I felt many of the comments Jo made about breastfeeding or about the mom keeping the baby close to her were made with disdain. Rather than supporting the mom for breastfeeding her child, Jo seemed to be appalled that the nursing relationship continued. Perhaps she needs reminding of the AAP’s recommendation (12 months+) or WHO’s recommendations (2 years+) regarding breastfeeding.

I also disagreed with the way they transitioned the baby from co-sleeping with mom and dad to sleeping in a crib using CIO (cry it out). I felt that it was unusually cruel to first take her off the breast cold-turkey, then make her CIO in a crib (even if it was only for 5 minutes) when she’d been so accustomed to the closeness and security of mom for the past 14 months. Again, gentler methods could have been used.

More from Kellymom.com: “When you’re actively weaning, be sure to offer lots of cuddling and extra affection during the day. As your child grows older, nursing becomes much more than a way to satisfy hunger and thirst. It provides him with much comfort, security and closeness, so be as sensitive to his needs as you possibly can be throughout the process.”

They sure missed the mark on that one. Also, the way Jo applauded the mom for remaining “detached” while she listened to her baby CIO behind a closed door made me feel sick to my stomach. 😦 No parent should ever be praised for their detachment from their children, especially while the child cries alone.

I felt really sorry for the baby (the only one in the family who couldn’t voice her feelings) in all of this. I agree that the mom needed to pay more attention to her other children (and stop hitting them!), but there are better ways of handling it all. Perhaps Jo could’ve offered her a sling and showed her how to wear her baby (which would allow her to get more things done and still satisfy the baby’s needs) rather than just tell her to break off her attachment with her.

I know numerous families with more than one child who don’t have to break the attachment with one child to spend time with the other(s). It might take more work and ingenuity to figure out a balance, but nobody said parenting would be easy.

Another thing that bothered me was Jo saying that the baby was missing developmental milestones because she was so attached. Hmmm. I’ve never heard of a baby missing milestones from being worn/held or breastfed, the opposite is often true – the babies thrive because their needs are being met.

Overall, I’m grateful that the “SuperNanny” helped mom to realize that hitting her kids is not an effective or good discipline tactic and I hope that the family was able to find some balance after all of this. Those older two kids (not the nephew) really seemed to be crying out for attention and hopefully they are getting more now. I just wish the baby’s needs were considered a bit more. After all, she’s part of the family too.

If you wish to voice your opinion on this episode to ABC, click here or email Nick Powell, the creator and executive producer of both the American and British versions of the show – supernannyUSA@ricochet.co.uk. Craig Armstrong and Nick Emmerson are executive producers of the American version. Supernanny is produced by Ricochet, Ltd.

 

Nine years ago… February 19, 2007

Filed under: Attachment Parenting,Crunchiness,Jody,Parenting — amygeekgrl @ 11:12 pm

Feb. 20 marks the ninth anniversary of me and Jody’s first meeting in person. Of course we knew each other via the Internet for about 1 1/2 years beforehand, but it wasn’t until Feb. 20, 1998, that we met face-to-face.

I lived in MI. He lived in OK. So, while we wanted to get together, we couldn’t just meet up at the local Starbucks for a cup of coffee. (Wait, did Starbucks even exist back then?)

A lot has happened in those nine years. First I moved to OK and we later got engaged. In 2000 we moved to CO and bought our first home. We got married in 2001 and we’ve since had two amazing children.

It hasn’t all been roses though. We’ve made our fair share of mistakes along the way (the most costly being the purchase of a timeshare which we’ve since sold, taking a huge loss), but we’ve learned a LOT. I think we’ve grown up a lot over the years and really settled into who we are both as parents and people.

I’m thankful for Jody for a number of reasons, but one thing that really stands out to me is what a wonderful father he is. He has nearly endless patience, is able to play just like a child, and has a huge heart.

Dish Duty Father and Son

Pictures taken yesterday – 2/19/07.

I also love (and feel very fortunate) that he and I are on the same page for pretty much everything to do with parenting – from breastfeeding to cloth diapering to delayed/selectively vaxing to discipline. When I first started thinking about having a homebirth for our second child, he was supportive. Of course he first wanted to know that it was safe both for me and the baby, but after we talked to our midwife and both felt very comfortable with her abilities and with just how safe a homebirth really is, he was on board 100%.

I’m thankful that he loves me for me and supports me in following my dreams and pursuing my passions.

Happy 9 years, Jody. I love you.